4 things that can destroy good relationship

While some people are fiercely committed to the single life, human nature and evolutionary biology say that the vast majority of people crave intimacy. However, maintaining those relationships is not easy. About 40 percent of first marriages fail, while subsequent marriages are even less likely to succeed. The reasons are as varied as the individuals, but here are four of the most common relationship and marriage problems that lead to breakups or divorces.

1. Matters of trust
Trust is absolutely necessary for a good relationship and the intimacy that keeps a relationship strong and people together. However, it is also one of the hardest things to earn and keep.

Issues of trust range from financial choices to emotional reliability. Often there is an underlying issue that has never been fully discussed and resolved, such as one partner's gambling at casinos or the inability to agree on whether to move to a new city. Over time, these unresolved issues can spill over into your everyday relationship, casting a cloud of doubt over even the most mundane situations.

2. Infidelity and jealousy
While trust can be broken in many aspects of a relationship, the most difficult to overcome is suspected infidelity or confirmed infidelity. From emotional affairs to sexual ones, infidelity tends to destroy nearly half of relationships. Even if you decide to stay together, learning to rebuild what you had before is a difficult and emotionally draining experience. This also applies to cases where no affair actually took place, but accusations were made.

3. Communication difficulties
Many couples struggle with communication, often claiming to speak different languages. However, a failure to communicate can lead to a once close couple operating in completely different spheres, living more like roommates than partners. Over time, you will begin to feel isolated and alone and may seek emotional intimacy elsewhere. A lack of communication can also lead to contempt or a tendency to turn any meaningful conversation into sarcasm and belittling rather than a healthy resolution.

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4. Lack of balance
Unbalanced relationships are especially common among young couples and those with young children or elderly parents, but it can happen to anyone. An imbalance occurs when one or both partners do not prioritize the relationship but place unusual importance on other people or other situations.

It is normal for relationships to have ups and downs, and in times of crisis, it is quite natural for a relationship to take a backseat. However, this becomes a problem when one partner begins to constantly feel as though you are taking them for granted, unimportant, or less valuable.

Examples of a lack of balance that can destroy a relationship - you always spend holidays with, for example, your husband's parents, one partner drinks with friends every night after work, or one partner makes all the vacation decisions. Even when you are dealing with problems outside of your relationship, make sure you share it with your partner, talk about it, and focus on solving the problem together.

Post by: Rinna James