How to Deal With Constantly Feeling Overwhelmed
Although people close to us usually have the best intentions when they give us advice, listening to our feelings and doing what we believe is sometimes all we need. If you ever find yourself in a situation like this, the following advice may be useful...
- 1. Ask yourself what your fears are
You may be comparing yourself to others and their opinions mean so much to you because you are afraid that something will go wrong. You are afraid of making your judgments and behaving in the way you believe is best for you. Writing down your fears on a sheet of paper is the simplest method to cope with them. When you're in a situation where you'd rather listen to others than do something for yourself, ask yourself what you're afraid of? What causes that fear? What is in the background? The process will not be easy or fast, but it will be worth it since you will be able to live your life the way you desire.
2. Relax
A little relaxation might help you listen to yourself better. When you're overwhelmed by other people's opinions, you feel like you're not good enough or that you should act differently, and you're frightened to take a chance you want when someone says no. Here are some suggestions that might help you:
Spend some time in silence or nature, focusing on deep breathing.
Relax with yoga or a more intense exercise. When this happens, all you can do is focus on exercise and your body.
Spend time with your pet, which not only has a therapeutic effect but will also help you relax.
3. Stop and think
It's tempting to get caught up in other people's opinions. It takes some grounding and time to think when this happens. First, make a mental or written list of your most important values. Then rank the persons whose advice and opinions you should listen to: are they among your top five people you trust? How important is their opinion to you? Is it a mother's opinion or just a casual acquaintance's? Finally, keep in mind that other people's opinions usually tell more about them than anything else. Making selections will be easier if you consider everything.
4. Consider your personal experience.
If you pay close attention to what others are saying and almost ignore yourself, you may be too strict with yourself. It's possible that you don't believe you're smart or responsible enough to make the best decision. Start working on kindness. You must increase your self-confidence and self-esteem, which is easier said than done, but you must begin somewhere. Start by giving yourself a few compliments in front of a mirror every day. Then start paying attention to what you say about yourself to others - keep it positive.
