How to overcome stress in marriage?
Find the positive side in a certain situation.
We recommend the practical implementation of the following advice to everyone who sees a significant cause of stress in marital relationships:
• An attitude of forgiveness.
We are all imperfect. Both you and your spouse. You should take the initiative in the moment of forgiveness. Sometimes you will have to forgive unintentional mistakes, but sometimes they will be intentional. In any case, forgiveness should be unconditional. It is a difficult experience for the human being, but it is necessary for the development of marital happiness.
• Notice all that is positive in others.
You could probably write a long list of qualities about your mate. Why not tell him that? How long has it been since you expressed all your love and gratitude to your spouse in even one word? Why should you look and pay attention only to what bothers you, if your partner has so many qualities?
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• Define the problems.
Look for the real cause of your difficulties: money, sexuality, children, parents, work, vacation, leisure. In each area, one should accept models of behavior, or recognize specific attitudes that disturb the relationship. It is the first stage in the diagnosis that enables the transition to the next stage.
• Establish agreements
It is very important to pinpoint the real problems you have with your spouse, but the most important thing is to agree on how to solve them. This is where you need to make compromises. Today, it seems completely normal to have contact with an experienced marriage psychologist, who, through his mediation, can direct a married couple to overcome the difficulties arising in their agreements. A husband complained about his wife's reckless use of credit cards. For her part, the wife could not tolerate him taking off his dirty clothes in the bathroom and leaving her to pick them up. The therapist, with unanimous consent, ordered the husband to buy a laundry basket and make an effort to put his dirty laundry in it. He advised the wife to reduce her expenses, and she will receive a smaller monthly amount that she will be able to use. This is how this marital crisis, which could have turned into a divorce, can be resolved.
Post by: Rinna James
